Did you even consider the possibility that the reason some guys flirt with people is strictly because of their personality? Or perhaps it’s because they have fun being around them? I’m not accusing, I’m not pointing fingers, and I’m not defending the blonde, skinny, bimbos that your “#2 and #3” girls are envious of. I’m saying that a personality has a lot to do with it. Take your friend “Honeyman”. For example, I don’t know him too well. Actually, I only know him through your website, and his random posts that he makes about buying stylish clothes for his new job, or the fact that he’s bitter because of your most recent blog. But I know the type of guy he is. Good looking, cocky about his looks (yet in a humble way), friendly, caring, funny, and all that jazz. He flirts with every girl he meets and knows. But what’s the matter with it? Doesn’t that problem lie within the girl he’s flirting with, and not him? I mean, sure he’s toying with them, but isn’t it obvious enough he doesn’t mean anything by it when he’s doing the same thing....to everybody else? It’s her fault for not seeing that it’s everybody.
Now Sue, I don’t entirely disagree with your post. Sure, guys who toy with everybody can make females upset, maybe males, who knows! And in some ways, it’s obnoxious and uncalled for. But where I fail to see your point is when you say he has his hand on your knee, but looks at another girl. Is he trying to feel you up? No. Or is it just playful banter that friends do? Perhaps it’s their way of showing their friendship. Some people hug, some people laugh, some people put their hand on your knee. Big whoop. As long as he’s not sleeping around, making out with four different girls in one night, or getting people pregnant, I think it’s safe to say that playful banter is perfectly alright, and if there is a problem, it is most likely the girl’s fault.
I think I'll have to take this in chunks for my reply to be coherent.
Did you even consider the possibility that the reason some guys flirt with people is strictly because of their personality? Or perhaps it’s because they have fun being around them? ...I’m not defending the blonde, skinny, bimbos that your “#2 and #3” girls are envious of.
I never said my #2 and #3 girls are envious of blonde, skinny, bimbos. I did take a moment to wish evil things upon my #1 friends--but that list includes many intelligent brunettes. :)
I’m saying that a personality has a lot to do with it. Take your friend “Honeyman”. ... He flirts with every girl he meets and knows. But what’s the matter with it?
I know that his personality has a lot to do with it. His personality has everything to do with it. I'm quite aware of that.
Doesn’t that problem lie within the girl he’s flirting with, and not him? I mean, sure he’s toying with them, but isn’t it obvious enough he doesn’t mean anything by it when he’s doing the same thing....to everybody else? It’s her fault for not seeing that it’s everybody.
I think that's a tad harsh. I really didn't mean this all to be about The Honeyman--he was merely an example. But because he is who you are referring to, I will continue on the subject... My point of using him was because I have been around when he has been dealing with the after effects of a girl falling for him. And attention is attention, regardless of if its being shown to someone else as well. I know I can't say "Ryan, you need to change." because that is just who he is. And he doesn't need to change, per se. He's great. He's fun to be with (when he's not snarky about my posts.) That is part of the personality of the guy we love. It is when a girl falls for him because of the attention given them and not reciprocated that I take a step back and think "this wouldn't have happened if you hadn't..." I don't think Honeyman needs to change his personality, I just think he has to be careful with what he says and does around some people. If merely to avoid that same uncomfortable situation from reoccuring.
But where I fail to see your point is when you say he has his hand on your knee, but looks at another girl. Is he trying to feel you up? No. Or is it just playful banter that friends do? Perhaps it’s their way of showing their friendship. Some people hug, some people laugh, some people put their hand on your knee. Big whoop. As long as he’s not sleeping around, making out with four different girls in one night, or getting people pregnant, I think it’s safe to say that playful banter is perfectly alright, and if there is a problem, it is most likely the girl’s fault.
Again, with that example specifically it is his personality. And it is just how some perceive it incorrectly. With me? Of course I know it is playful banter. Again--I just think he has to be careful with what he says and does around some people. If merely to avoid that same uncomfortable situation from reoccuring.
But, really, the post wasn't about him. He was merely an example from my personal life. And I'm sorry for everyone who got offended and hurt by what I wrote.
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