As the night progresses, the inside jokes begin to outnumber the regular ones. -Chandon ad

Honeyman says I'm not social. Dorkhead. (I'm not super social, sure, but hey...)
Well, I'd better back up a bit:

The other day Ryan and I were discussing April 20-something: the day he wants to get married (year undecided because of all his 17-year-old girlfriends). I told him about June 12th, 2006-the date I picked out over seven years ago, when I was 13. I had almost nine years to plan the perfect reception. Now that is only a year and a half away. Dang.
I told him I doubt I will make my date. He disagreed:
H: "Whatever."
S: "Oh yes, I am getting married in just over a year with my excellent track record."
H: "Our track records aren't much different."
S: "HA! Whatever."
H: "You just don't date because you aren't social."
S: [really quietly & in his face] "Bite me."

Being social is overrated. ;)

Of course this wasn't the first time we had basically the same conversation. It's about a bi-monthly staple. He says he thinks I'll get married soon, I say I won't. He says I should date more, I say guys don't like tall nor chunky girls. He lists things people like about me: gorgeous eyes, height, voluptuous lips, humor, personality, giggle, etc, I complain about my height being supposedly "intimidating" and my constant giggle being annoying. He says I'm "very likeable", Haha-from the guy who always makes it a point to make sure I know he *doesn't like me*. ...And then it switches sides: him saying he won't get married soon, me saying he will.
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So here is my open question that I'd really like EVERYONE to comment on:

* How does someone like me become "social"?

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I go to the activities. I smile, I talk to people if they are near me and there is a reason to, I crack jokes when appropriate, I laugh at others jokes...a lot.
I'm not purposely avoiding being social, I promise. If people talk to me I can act like we have always been best friends. When people introduce me to someone I will usually laughingly say "We already know eachother, we're tight!" Which usually gets a laugh from the person being introduced. I will even quote "Oh, Susannah" to help people remember me. (Which almost always gets them singing that annoying song everytime that person sees me. If only there was a better way) Heck, I'm NOT ALLOWED to turn down a date (unless the guy literally frightens me.)

So possibly my socialness depends on others too much, but I'm comfortable that way.