He's Just Not That Into You...Because You Stalk Him.

Because Vati is a bishop of a BYU ward he has a lot of advice on what NOT to do socially. How To Lose A Guy In Two Days. He was telling us some stories tonight and I uh...resembled a few. Only a few, I swear! Stalkage ones. Uh...it's not my fault. Or, uh, something. Dang. I am socially intept, haha.

So I asked my daddy and Jayar some dating advice, haha. And this is what I was given:

1. Put yourself in an environment that promotes the possibility of meeting people.
2. Don't wear heels.
3. Eye contact and SMILE. He's intimidated and scared--the smile wipes away most of the fear. If he's not scared he has too much practice and he is one to avoid.
4. Don't make yourself available.
5. Don't dominate or be possessive.
6. Be happy; and be happy to be there and with him.

Now my thoughts:
Re: 1) This is my biggest problem. I was all willing in the beginning but thinking about it makes me realize that I really really don't like to put myself in social situations. I have a comfortable group of friends and I like to stay within that. Which is difficult, obviously, when I am 6 hours away from most of that group. I guess hanging out with Liz, Jayar, and Genevra isn't really getting me in "an environment that promotes the possibility of meeting people."

Re: 2) I don't like this one. Really don't like this one. Ok, I get it! I am 5'10" so when I wear my cute shoes I am about 6'1". I am quite a presence. But should that be such a dang bad thing? Intimidation is the mind of the beholder? Wait...

Re: 5) Eye contact--that I'm bad at. But I can't NOT smile. I am CONSTANTLY giggling.

Re: 4) Uh, ok. Be available, but not TOO available--Turn him down once in a while. (That's what Cosmo said this month...and I didn't just say Cosmo, Mom, I said...uh...National Geographic.) So the desperation in your voice should be masked when you scream "Yes! Yes! I'm not doing anything this weekend!!!" into the phone?

Re: 5) I don't have a problem with this. Well, not that I am aware of at least. True, I give people possessive names like "My" but not like freaky possessive. Just like calling Aaron "My 17-year-old". Or calling people "MyBoyfriend[Their Name]", which I've really only called three people. And one of them doesn't get that title anymore because we are friends now and that would be awkward and I can't even name him on here because he stops by sporadically. I'm not possessive, GOSH.

Re: 6) Again, not a problem for me. I'm a generally happy person.

Jayar says I am the perfect date, haha, because I am, like, so dang cool. Oh, wait, I think it was because I like explosion movies and have a oh-so-cool sense of humor, and because I'm always giggling, and because, uh...my height.