Stalk the poor boy, wouldya?

I have six months. Only six months. Well, I guess I have a year and six months. But thats only a year and six months!
This July I will be 21-years-old. All of my sisters (as well as my mother) were 21 when they were married. Just another topic in which I am the black sheep of the family.
...just something I've been thinking about lately.


In the Utahn LDS culture marrying at 21 is the norm. Anything over 23 and you are considered "marrying older". That's messed up. Also, something Sarah brought up in our little conversation about this the other night- we are taught to sit by and wait for a guy to pick us as good enough for him. We are taught from a young age how to be the girl some guy would choose as a mother for his future children, keeper of his home, etc. While those are all good things, there shouldn't be the pressure to conform to this. Oh! And if you are not married by 21, you should up and go on a mission. "Why did she go on a mission?" "No one would marry her." "Aw, bless her heart." I realize this is not always the case, not everyone feels this way. But in general there is the existing pressure.

And do not get me started on BYU (aka The Byoo). The insane breeding ground. Where if you are not engaged or dating every weekend you should, at the very least, be bringing brownies/cookies/etc over to guys on a weekly basis.
Where there are 7 girls to every 2 guys so the guys can be as lazy as humanly possible dating-wise and have girls falling over them--because there is noone else, and graduating BYU single is a sin.

What is every freaking lesson mention? What is every freaking Young Single Adults fireside topic? What is the most popular Insitute class? Dating, courtship, and marriage!

If you are not engaged by 21-years-old there is something wrong with you. Well, heck, if you are not engaged by 23-years-old there MUST be something wrong with you. Are you too picky? Are you suffering from as-yet-undiagnosed insanity? You must be fat, ugly, a bad cook, or only want one child. Yep, that's it...you are a "sweet spirit".

Dad: "I told him she was a special person."
Susannah: "Dad, that means fat."


...I dunno, maybe I'm bitter ;)